“We cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are.”
~ Max Dupree
What have you dreamed of doing your whole life, but haven’t done it yet?
For many years, I dreamed of speaking to and training others, but I didn’t do it. You see, I had this fear of showing up and forgetting my name like I did when I was 15 years old and was asked to speak in front of a bunch of my peers. This memory held me back for a long time. I would even take F’s in college on speaking projects because of this fear.
I was stuck, being who I was instead of becoming what I wanted to be.
When I joined the military, it was a perfect training ground for me. If you want to grow and get promoted in the military, you must be able to...
"Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.” ~ Benjamin Franklin
We either are “green and growing”, or we are “ripe and rotting”. Change is inescapable.
Since March of 2020, we have been in a state of massive and constant change. We do not know from day to day or even moment to moment what change we may face. We recently celebrated July 4th - Independence Day in America. I am reminded of the growth and many changes of this great country from its birth 244 years ago.
Summer in Arkansas means fresh tomatoes and hopefully a bacon and tomato sandwich. If you have never tried this, it is a must! I have had a few tomato plants in my...
In the dictionary, comfort is defined as a sense of physical or psychological ease and a lack of hardship while uncomfortable are people lacking in comfort. I disagree! I am hung up in the word “lacking”. I think people who are comfortable are lacking. Let me explain.
When you go along in life and stay within the lines, always on the safe side of the street, not taking risks and staying under the radar, you think you are comfortable. You don’t ruffle feathers, you don’t cause problems, you avoid drama… Ha!
That is not the life I want to live. Not that I desire to ruffle feathers and be that obnoxious guy no one wants around. Far from it. I want to be the person that...
If the facts don’t fit the theory, change the facts. ~ Albert Einstein
I love that quote! Change is that scary word that most people shy away from. I don’t want to change. Why should I change? Why doesn’t everyone else change to accommodate me? If I change, then I will be out of my comfort zone. Why change something that isn’t broken?
Change. Asking someone to change is like expecting the sun to not rise. Isn’t it a pointless request? Change comes from within. Change is something we do with ourselves. Only we can control us, no one else. So why ask, expect, anticipate, anything from someone else?
Let’s focus on how to change...
So many people wish life was easier, with less challenges and obstacles but without challenges, life becomes stagnant and we stop growing. Challenges help us uncover who we are, and it allows us to become better people.
Let’s examine a very simple 4-step method to overcoming challenges.
First, GET REAL and state the problem clearly. When we are faced with challenges, we tend to avoid the issue and run the other way burying our heads in the sand hoping it goes away. Or we may say – ok, there is an obstacle, instead of heading right to it and plowing through, I am going to look for another path and even though that is not the way I want to go – it looks easier… less headache… but rarely does that work...
Behavior defined can be a physical thing one does such as a morning routine and it can be non-physical such as replaying negative thoughts all day long. A few behaviors are instinctual and built in while the rest are learned through meeting needs. What this means is that our behaviors are motivated by our needs and therefore we can be manipulated as well as manipulate to have our needs met.
So, when we have negative behaviors and we want to change them, we find it isn’t always so easy because these learned behavior that we exhibit are actually rather complex.
There are two types of motivation – the motivation to approach something and the motivation to avoid something. When we desire something, we are motivated to approach it...
Do you feel stressed out from leadership sometimes? It is natural. Leadership is tough.
I know I have had to develop skills not natural for me,, but they have completely changed my leadership and influence with others.
"Everything rises and falls on leadership." Make sure your leadership creates the right direction.